Do you have kids ?
If so, my question to you is, surely, you and your wife have divided responsibilities to a degree over kid, right ? one of you picks ur kid up from school on way back from work, one of you sits for the homeworks, etc.
So now, imagine, if your wife is having a meltdown - someone she liked died or something happened and she isnt 'mothering' very well for the next 1 month. Maybe it IS your wifes fault, maybe it isnt.
What do YOU do - do you tell your kid 'sorry mommy is not up to the task this month, walk home from school, aint my job to pick up the slack, its mommys job' or do you do what must be done, coz you love your child and want him or her to succeed ?
This is how i feel about this citizen vs army issue. I am not interested in whether indian army is hijra, napunsak or chandi-roop. I am interested in seeing my child succeed, which is hindu india. If i have to pick up slack, i will but problem is, i live way too far for me to make THIS a reality on my own.