I can talk about the German special forces first. In the three forces, there aren't any women in combat related SF roles. However they are attached to the teams in supporting roles such as Medics, TEO(Technical Exploitation Officers) Or Recon teams. As far as I am aware of, no one has been able to clear the physical screening process for the combat related roles.
The situation is also similar in JSOC/SOCOM. If I am not wrong there's only one or two women who have cleared the Ranger course. Not aware of them clearing any other unit selection.