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Regarding marriage, it's a lottery and karma game. Get your kundli matched based on actual kundali to avoid fakes. Have meetings with the girl and clarify certain things upfront:
a) Family Living Arrangement
- Parents will live with you
- You'll take care of them
- Expect your life partner to stand beside you in this
b) Household Skills
- Ensure she knows how to cook and clean
- (Note: By "cleaning" I mean ability to organize personal space, not expecting others to clean after her)
c) Expectations Management
- Ask what she expects from marriage
- Could range from:
- Buying SUV
- Exotic vacation trips
- Be prepared or clarify your own priorities
d) Financial Contribution
- If she's salaried, gently communicate expectations about sharing expenses
e)Personal Habits
- Carefully and creatively inquire about:
- Partying habits
- Drinking preferences
f)Religious
Ask what her beliefs are and how she practices and what is her expectation of spouse.
- Real nature reveals itself after 6-12 months
- Marriage is work; both partners must contribute
- The problem with most matches is they expect a Adarsh Sanskari Pati but site themselves being modern followers of feminism to shun any their share of responsibility.
(Above points are Applicable to both rural and city girls)
Some find gem partners from diverse backgrounds. Don't generalize. Seek God's blessing for a life partner who makes your life experience and learnings net positive.