hello again to all
last time i posted on chit chat, i mentioned about difficult phase i was going through in life; but things have taken a turn for me, and seems a good turn at it,
mostly my parents' health was the root cause, but they are doing fine, my siblings got married in last marriage season and most importantly,
there are chances i may get a government job within next three-four months
(sidenote, as a believer in jyotish, i'm going through shani sade sati final phase, and i've seen lots of things in last five years through it, so yeah)
now, something about me to explain my case here
- started working as a low paying frontend developer thing (i do javascript coding mainly) in 2021, stuck to same line of work, recent market disruption in field of IT for us low level coders due to all saturation from available candidates and AI boom further ruined my chances to hop on different career paths in IT, so i mostly stuck around with whatever was available
- through these years, starting from my college till now, most relatives of mine in extended family, never bothered much with keeping up with me - i don't get any diwali greeting or anything ever on whatsapp, they don't call me, even on occasions of family gathering and all, i'm mostly treated like an invisible person - i used to blame it on my introverted persona but lately after understanding some looksmaxxing and
stuffs, i have come to accept it that i'm simply not desirable in their eyes; so i eventually made up my peace with it and moved on
- now, my father...after getting it that i might get a govt job...he blew the bugles among family about this "win"
- all those fuckers in my extended family who ever looked down on me, showered me with congratulations all sudden
i was like, ok it happens
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but most interesting thing that's happened-happening in my life right now, these same relatives who treated me like nothing ARE COMING FORWARD WITH MARRIAGE PROPOSALS FOR SOME GIRLs IN THEIR EXTENDED FAMILIES OR SO FOR ME... so far i've received three different proposals
i know i should be happy and all, but rather, i'm simply sceptical or even outright distrustful of these fuckers who are trying to woo me and my family now just because i could get that sweet cosy (not really) and 'stable' govt job
and i certainly don't want to become that 'option' for those alleged
bigadi baap ki beti - i simply don't have capacity
except violence to handle such things
so i'm asking for your
big brotherly advise here, all my experienced DFIans-DFBans; i'm of course at that age to be married off and willing to settle down, but keeping all realities in mind, this is what i seek
- i don't really care about looks as long as a girl's presentable enough, i don't even mind if she's taller than me (and i'm relatively on shorter side
), i give rat's ass to my perception or "status" among muh samaaj or family about my life partner-to-be
- i have aversion towards working women, and i don't want a wife already doing or planning to do any job; but thing is my kanjoos father wishes to tie me up with some working woman as he believes "aaj ke jamane me dono log kamaenge toh hi ghar chal paega"
- ideally i wanted to uplift a poor family girl from my caste through marriage, but same as above, my kanjoos father would not approve of such things
- i have not been to much relationships or even friendships with girls, and i'm extremely anti-social when it comes to things like most "shaukh" muh hobbies prevalent among normie youth like movies, tv, cricket and partying-dining out etc - i'm more like an otaku nerd type who takes enjoyment in singular hobbies and have niche interests (well my presence on a defense forum is sufficient to tell that) ; but due to all that i feel "outdated" to break the ice of discussions among public or feel like i perhaps won't be able to relate with most girls of this era; and i don't want to pick a wrong life partner as this is 'make or break' type of decision for my life
- finally, like your typical lower middle class fellow, my requirements in a girl are simple => must be family oriented, must be willing to take role of a homemaker, must cook and take responsibility of my kitchen, must be willing to bear kids as soon as possible and ABOVE ALL
MUST NOT BE A CHHINAAR - last being most important thing
so, i'd like your pov, opinions, suggestions et al about this, oh you all DFIan-DFBan friends here with lots of experiences in your respective lives